How To Get People To Like You
(credit to the book “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)
We might as well admit it, we want people to like us. You may hear someone say, “I don’t care whether people like me or not.” But whenever you hear anyone say that, just put it down as a fact that he is not really telling the truth.
The psychologist William James said, “One of the deepest drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated.” The longing to be liked, to be held in esteem, to be a sought-after person, is fundamental in us.
The basic principles of getting people to like you need no prolonged and labored emphasis, for they are very simple and easily illustrate their own truth. The soundness of these principles has been demonstrated innumerable times. Practice them until you become expert at them and people will like you.
Here are the ten (10) practical rules for getting the esteem of others.
1.) Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing. A man’s name is very important to him.
2.) Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you – be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual. Be homey.
3.) Acquire the quality of relaxed easygoingness so that things do not ruffle you.
4.) Don’t be egotistical. Guard against giving the impression that you know it all. Be natural and normally humble.
5.) Cultivate the quality of being interesting so that people will want to be with you and get something of stimulating value from their association with you.
6.) Study to get the “scratchy” elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.
7.) Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.
8.) Practice liking people until you learn to so genuinely. Remember what Will Rogers said, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Try to be that way.
9.) Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.
10.) Get a deep spiritual experience so that you have something to give people that will help them to be stronger and meet life more effectively. Give strength to people and they will give affection to you.