How To Get People To Like You

How To Get People To Like You

(credit to the book “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)

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We might as well admit it, we want people to like us.  You may hear someone say, “I don’t care whether people like me or not.” But whenever you hear anyone say that, just put it down as a fact that he is not really telling the truth.

The psychologist William James said, “One of the deepest drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated.”  The longing to be liked, to be held in esteem, to be a sought-after person, is fundamental in us.

The basic principles of getting people to like you need no prolonged and labored emphasis, for they are very simple and easily illustrate their own truth.  The soundness of these principles has been demonstrated innumerable times.  Practice them until you become expert at them and people will like you.

Here are the ten (10) practical rules for getting the esteem of others.

1.) Learn to remember names. Inefficiency at this point may indicate that your interest is not sufficiently outgoing.  A man’s name is very important to him.

2.) Be a comfortable person so there is no strain in being with you – be an old-shoe, old-hat kind of individual. Be homey.

3.) Acquire the quality of relaxed easygoingness so that things do not ruffle you.

4.) Don’t be egotistical.  Guard against giving the impression that you know it all.  Be natural and normally humble.

5.) Cultivate the quality of being interesting so that people will want to be with you and get something of stimulating value from their association with you.

6.) Study to get the “scratchy” elements out of your personality, even those of which you may be unconscious.

7.) Sincerely attempt to heal, on an honest Christian basis, every misunderstanding you have had or now have. Drain off your grievances.

8.) Practice liking people until you learn to so genuinely.  Remember what Will Rogers said, “I never met a man I didn’t like.” Try to be that way.

9.) Never miss an opportunity to say a word of congratulation upon anyone’s achievement, or express sympathy in sorrow or disappointment.

10.) Get a deep spiritual experience so that you have something to give people that will help them to be stronger and meet life more effectively. Give strength to people and they will give affection to you.

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

10 Simple Ways To Solve Personal Problems

10 Simple Ways To Solve Personal Problems

(credit to “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)

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All of us experienced problems in our life, and we face those problems differently.  Majority of us see the problems bigger than ourselves causing us stress, worries and pains. We dwell more often on the problems, and sometimes we forget that the answers are just in the grasp of our minds.  As they say, “The size of the problems determines by the size of You”, it’s true. Sometimes, what you think is a problem, is not really a problem to other people. It’s just the size of You that determines whether it is a problem or not.

Nonetheless, I would like to share with you here, the ten (10) Simple Suggestions in solving your personal problems.

1.) Believe that for every problem there is a solution. This belief will make you think more of the solutions to your problems because you know for a fact that it can be solved.

2.) Keep calm.  Tension blocks the flow of thought power.  Your brain cannot operate efficiently under stress.  Go at your problem easylike. When you are at peace, you can think clearly of the solutions to your problems. Your mind thinks at its best when you are in serenity and peaceful.

3.) Don’t try to force an answer. Keep your mind relaxed so that the solution will open up and become clear.  Put everything in God’s hands.

4.) Assemble all the facts impartially, impersonally, and judicially.

5.) List these facts on paper.  This clarifies your thinking, bringing the various elements into orderly system.  You see as well as think.  The problem becomes objective, not subjective.

6.) Pray about your problem, affirming that God will flash illumination into your mind. Deep Prayer will provide you Divine guidance on solving your problems. Prayer is very powerful as a means of talking freely to God.

7.) Believe in and seek God’s guidance on the promise of the 73rd Psalm, “Thou shalt guide me by thy counsel.”

8.) Trust the faculty of insight and intuition.

9.) Go to church and let your subconscious work on the problem as you attune to the mood of worship.  Creative spiritual thinking has amazing power to give “right” answers.

10.) If you follow these steps faithfully, then the answer that develops in your mind, or comes to pass, is the right answer to your problem.

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

7 Practical Steps for Changing your Mental Attitudes from Negative to Positive Thoughts

7 Practical Steps for Changing your Mental Attitudes from Negative to Positive Thoughts

(excerpt from the book “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)

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“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” – William James

As you think, so shall you be.  So flush out all old, tire, worn-out thoughts.  Fill your mind with fresh, new creative thoughts of faith, love and goodness.  By this process you can actually remake your life.

Negative Thoughts = Negative Actions = Negative Results

Positive Thoughts = Positive Actions = Positive Results

It all starts with thought and if your thoughts contain negative thinking, then it will always lead to negative actions and results.

Following are seven practical steps for changing your mental attitudes from negative to positive, for releasing creative new thoughts, and for shifting from error patterns to truth patterns.  Try them-keep on trying them. The will work.

1.) For the next twenty-four hours, deliberately speak hopefully about everything, about your job, about your health, about your future.  Go out your way to talk optimistically about everything.  This will be difficult, for possibly it is your habit to talk pessimistically.  From this negative habit you must restrain yourself even if it requires an act of will.

2.) After speaking hopefully for twenty-four hours, continue the practice for one week, then you can be permitted to be “realistic” for a day or two.  You will discover that what you meant by “realistic” a week ago was actually pessimistic, but what you now mean by “realistic” is something entirely different; it is the dawning of the positive outlook.  When most people say they are being “realistic” they delude themselves: they are simply being negative.

3.) You must feed your mind even as you feed your body, and to make your mind healthy you must feed it nourishing, wholesome thoughts.  Therefore, today start to shift your mind from negative to positive thinking.  Start at the beginning of the New Testament and underscore every sentence about faith.  Continue doing this until you have marked every such passage in the four books, Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. Particularly not Mark 11, verses 22, 23, 24.  They will serve as samples of the verses you are to underscore and fix deeply in your consciousness.

4.) Then commit the underscored passages to memory.  Commit one each day until you can recite the entire list from memory.  This will take time, but remember you have consumed much more time becoming a negative thinker than this will require.  Effort and time will be needed to unlearn your negative pattern.

5.) Make a list of your friends to determine who is the most positive thinker among them and deliberately cultivate his society.  Do not abandon your negative friends, but get closer to those with a positive point of view for a while, until you have absorbed their spirit, then you can go back among your negative friends and give them your newly acquired thought pattern without taking on their negativism.

6.) Avoid argument, but whenever a negative attitude is expressed, counter with a positive and optimistic opinion.

7.) Pray a great deal and always let your prayer take the form of thanksgiving on the assumption that God is giving you great and wonderful things; for if you think He is, He surely is.  God will not give you any greater blessing than you can believe in.  He wants to give you great things, but even He cannot make you take anything greater than you are equipped by faith to receive “According to your faith (that is, in proportion to)  be it unto you” (Matthew 9:29)/

The secret of a better and more successful life is to cast out those old, dead, unhealthy thoughts. Substitute them new, vital, dynamic faith thoughts.  You can depend upon it – an inflow of new thought will remake you and your life.

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

How To Use Faith in Healing

How To Use Faith in Healing

(An excerpt from the book “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)

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Is RELIGIOUS FAITH a factor in healing?  There are various evidences that Faith really is a factor in healing of a person.  When Faith is properly understood and applied, it is a powerful factor in overcoming diseases and establishing good health.

In my personal experiences, I used prayer and Faith to be more calm, peaceful and trusting to God.  And when your body is at peace, away from worries, you tend to heal naturally.

In the book, “The Power of Positive Thinking”, Here are the eight (8) practical suggestions on how to use Faith in Healing.

1.) Follow the advice of a prominent medical school head who said, “In sickness, send for your minister even as you send for your doctor.” In other words, believe that spiritual forces as well as medical technique are important in healing.

 

2.) Pray for the doctor.  Realize that God uses trained human instrumentality to aid His healing powers.  As one doctor has put it, “We treat the patient and God heals him.” Pray, therefore, that the doctor may be an open channel of God’s healing grace.

 

3.) Whatever you do, do not become panicky or filled with fear, for if you do, you will send out negative thoughts and therefore destructive thoughts in the direction of your loved one when he requires positive and healing thoughts to assist him.

 

4.) Remember that God does nothing except by law.  Also remember that our little materialistic laws are only fragmentary revelations of the great power flowing through the universe.  Spiritual law also governs illness.  God has arranged two remedies for all illness.  One is healing through natural laws applicable by science, and the other brings healing by spiritual law applicable through faith.

 

5.) Completely surrender your loved one into the hands of God.  By your faith you can place him in the flow of Divine power.  There s healing there, but in order for it to be effective the patient must be completely released to the operation of God’s will.  This is difficult to understand and equally difficult to perform, but it is a fact that if the great desire for the loved one to live is matched with an equally great willingness to relinquish him to God, healing powers are amazingly set in motion.

 

6.) It is also important that harmony prevail in the family, that is, a spiritual harmony.  Remember the emphasis in the Scripture, Matthew 18:19 “If two of you shall agree on earth as touching anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.” Apparently disharmony and disease are akin.

 

7.) Form a picture in your mind of the loved one as being well. Visualize him in perfect health.  Picture him as radiant with the love and goodness of God.  The conscious mind may suggest sickness, even death, but nine-tenths of your mind is in the subconscious.  Let the picture of health sink into the subconscious and this powerful part of your mind will send forth radiant health energy.  What we believe in the subconscious we usually get.  Unless your faith controls the subconscious, you will never get any good thing, for the subconscious gives back only that which your real thought is.  If the real thought is negative, the results will also be negative.  If the real thought is positive, you will get positive and healing results.

 

8.) Be perfectly natural.  Ask God to heal your loved one.  That is what you want with all your heart, so ask Him please to do it, but we suggest that you say PLEASE just once.  Thereafter in your prayer, thank Him for His goodness.  This affirmative faith will help to release deep spiritual power and also joy through reassurance of God’s loving care.  This joy will sustain you, and remember that joy itself possesses healing power.

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

10 Ways On How To Break The Worry Habit

10 Ways On How To Break The Worry Habit

(An excerpt from the book, “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale)

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I’ve experienced in my life worrying on something or someone.  I’ve seen it in my parents, siblings, relatives, family, neighbor, friends and to other people.  Everyone, I believed, experienced worry on themselves.  Worry is an unhealthy and destructive mental habit. We were not born with the worry habit.  We acquired it. And because we can change any habit and any acquired attitude, we can cast worry from our mind.  A prominent physician declares that “worry” is the most subtle and destructive of all human diseases.  Another Physician tells us that thousands of people are ill because of “dammed-up anxiety.”

An article from a Rotarian Magazine entitled “How Long Can You Live” declares that if you want to live long, observe the following rules:

(1) Keep Calm

(2) Go to church

(3) Eliminate worry

 

To eliminate worry, here are the ten list of worry-breaking formula that can help you.

 

1.) Say to yourself, “Worry is just a very bad mental habit. And I can change any habit with God’s help.”

 

2.) You became a worrier by practicing worry.  You can become free of worry by practicing the opposite and stronger habit of faith.  With all the strength and perseverance you can command, start practicing faith.

 

3.) How do you practice faith? First thing every morning before you arise say out loud, I Believe” three times.

 

4.) Pray using this formula: “I place this day, my life, my loved ones, my work in the Lord’s hands.  There is no harm in the Lord’s hands, only good. Whatever happens, whatever results, if I am in the Lord’s hands it is the Lord’s will and it is good.”

 

5.) Practice saying something positive concerning everything about which you have been talking negatively. Talk positively. For example, don’t say, “This is going to be a terrible day.” Instead, affirm, “This is going to be a glorious day.” Don’t say, “I’ll never be able to do that.” Instead, affirm, “With God’s help I will do that.”

 

6.) Never participate in a worry conversation.  Shoot an injection of faith into all your conversations. A group of people talking pessimistically can infect talking things up rather than down you can drive off that depressing atmosphere and make everyone feel hopeful and happy.

 

7.) One reason you are a worrier is that your mind is literally saturated with apprehension thoughts, defeat thoughts, gloomy thoughts.  To counteract, mark every passage in the Bible that speaks of faith, hope, happiness, glory, radiance.  Commit each to memory.  Say them over and over again until these creative thoughts saturate your subconscious mind. Then the subconscious will return to you what you have given it, namely, optimism, not worry.

 

8.) Cultivate friendships with hopeful people.  Surround yourself with friends who think positive, faith producing thoughts and who contribute to a creative atmosphere.  This will keep you restimulated with faith attitudes.

 

9.) See how many people you can help to cure their own worry habit.  In helping another to overcome worry you get greater power over it within yourself.

 

10.) Everyday of your life conceive of yourself as living in partnership and companionship with Jesus Christ.  If He actually walked by your side, would you be worried or afraid? Well, then, say to yourself, “He is with me.” Affirm aloud, “I am with you always.” Then change it to say, “He is with me now.” Repeat that affirmation three times every day.

 

 

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

Try Prayer Power excerpt from “The Power of Positive Thinking”

Try Prayer Power excerpt from “The Power of Positive Thinking”

by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

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Personally, I used to pray daily as part of my daily routine, I start my day with a prayer of gratitudes, thanking God for all the blessings and for the learnings from life experiences. I then follow it with my personal prayers for guidance and then to my dreams.  After my prayers, I then get my bible and read it to know and learn the word of God. This routine makes my day great as I know that God is guiding me.

Let’s check here how you can make a Prayer your resort anytime of the day whether you’re experiencing happiness or sadness.

A prayer is a solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God or an object of worship.  A simple formula for effective prayer suggested in the book of “The Power of Positive Thinking” consist of (1) PRAYERIZE, (2)PICTURIZE, (3) ACTUALIZE.

Prayerize means a daily system of creative prayer, prayer without ceasing, filling your daily life full of prayer.  The second point in the formula of creative prayer is to picturize. The basic factor in physics is force.  The basic factor in psychology is the realizable wish. The man who assumes success tends already to have success. People who assume failure tend to have failure.  When either failure or success is picturized it strongly tends to actualize in terms equivalent to the mental image pictured.  Practice believing and continue to hold the picturization firmly in your thoughts.  In this manner, the picture actualizes. That which you have prayerized and picturized actualizes according to the pattern of your basic realizable wish when conditioned by invoking God’s power upon it, and, if, moreover, you give fully of yourself to its realization.

Following are ten rules for getting effective results from prayer.

1.) Set aside a few minutes every day.  Do not say anything. Simply practice thinking about God. This will make your mind spiritually receptive.

2.) Then pray orally, using simple, natural words. Tell God anything that is on your mind. Do not think you must use stereotyped pious phrases. Talk to God in your own language. He understand it.

3.) Pray as you go about the business of the day, on the subway or bust or at your desk.  Utilize minute prayers by closing your eyes to shut out the world and concentrating briefly on God’s presence.  The more you do this everyday, the nearer you will feel God’s presence.

4.) Do not always ask when you pray, but instead affirm that God’s blessings are being given, and spend most of your prayers giving thanks.

5.) Pray with the belief that sincere prayers can reach out and surround your loved ones with God’s love and protection.

6.) Never use a negative thought in prayer. Only positive thoughts get results.

7.) Always express willingness to accept God’s will.  Ask for what you want, but be willing to take what God gives you.  It may be better than what you ask for.

8.) Practice the attitude of putting everything in God’s hands. Ask for the ability to do your best and to leave the results confidently to God.

9.) Pray for people you do not like or who have mistreated you. Resentment is blockade number one of spiritual power.

10.) Make a list of people for whom to pray.  The more you pray for other people, especially, those not connected with you, the more prayer results will come back to you.

 

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

Believe in Yourself from “The Power of Positive Thinking”

Believe in Yourself from “The Power of Positive Thinking”

by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

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Following are ten simple, workable rules for overcoming inadequacy attitudes and learning to practice faith.  Thousands have used these rules reporting successful results. Undertake this program and you, too, will build up confidence in your powers. You, too, will have a new feeling of power.

1.) Formulate and stamp indelibly on your mind a mental picture of yourself as succeeding. Hold this picture tenaciously. Never permit it to fade. Your mind will seek to develop this picture. Never think of yourself as failing; never doubt the reality of the mental image. That is most dangerous, for the mind always tries to complete what it pictures.  So always picture “success” no matter how badly things seem to be going at the moment.

2.) Whenever a negative thought concerning your personal powers comes to mind, deliberately voice a positive thought to cancel it out.

3.) Do not built up obstacles in your imagination. Depreciate every so-called obstacle. Minimize them. Difficulties must be studied and efficiently dealt with to be eliminated, but they must be seen for only what they are.  They must not be inflated by fear thoughts.

4.) Do not be awestruck by other people and try to copy them. Nobody can be you as efficiently as YOU can. Remember also that most people, despite their confident appearance and demeanor, are often as scared as you are and as doubtful of themselves.

5.) Ten times a day repeat these dynamic words, “If God be for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31). (Stop reading and repeat them NOW slowly and confidently.)

6.) Get a competent counselor to help you understand why you do what you do. Learn the origin of your inferiority and self-doubt feelings which often begin in childhood. Self-knowledge leads to a cure.

7.) Ten times each day practice the following affirmation, repeating it out loud if possible. “I can do all things through Christ who Strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13) Repeat those words NOW. That magic statement is the most powerful antidote on earth to inferiority thoughts.

8.) Make a true estimate of your own ability, then raise it 10 percent. Do not become egotistical, but develop a wholesome self-respect. Believe in your own God-released powers.

9.) Put yourself in God’s hands. To do that simply state, “I am in God’s hands.” Then believe you are NOW receiving all the power you need. Feel it flowing into you.  Affirm that “the kingdom of God is within you” (Luke 17:21) in the form of adequate power to meet life’s demands.

10.) Remind yourself that God is with you and nothing can defeat you. Believe that you now RECEIVE power from him.

Note: credit to the book of Dr. Norman Vincent Peale “The Power of Positive Thinking”

Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.

Children Learn What They Live

Children Learn What They Live

Lessons on Parenting

(credit from the book Chicken Soup for the Soul)

“Perhaps the greatest social service that can be rendered by anybody to the country and to mankind is to bring up a family.” – George Bernard Shaw

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The person we will become lies on the parenting that our parents instill in us. The kind of person that we have developed rely deeply on the nurturing that we received from our parents. We developed and acquired the necessary attitude mostly in our family that’s why a good parenting is very necessary to raise our children better. To point out this, here is a short poem from Dorothy L. Nolte on how children’s learn on what they live.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to be shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn what envy is.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with tolerance, they learn to be patient.

If children live with encouragement, they learn to be confident.

If children live with praise, they learn to appreciate.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to find love in the world.

If children live with recognition, they learn to have goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.

If children live with honesty and fairness, they learn what truth and justice are.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those around them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn that the world is a nice place in which to live.

If children live with serenity, they learn to have peace of mind.

With what are your children living?

  • Dorothy L. Nolte

 

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Hi, I’m Ralf Roger Tagao, a CPA & Real Estate Broker. My passion is reading books about business, success, leadership and all other motivational books that help me develop myself more. I love to share my ideas, knowledge and learnings to other people that I think will benefit them.